Posted by JoniS on June 28, 2007, at 22:06:53
In reply to Struggling with the concept of Need, posted by DAisym on June 26, 2007, at 19:34:31
I'm also struggling to understand the strong need I feel for my T. I don't know if this is the same thing you are talking about or not.
Fairly early on in T I learned how I was lacking differentiation from my H. I guess another word for it is fused. So, after working on this for a while I began to see what it's like to be more differentiated and not so fused. But that seems so close to "need" I just have a lot of difficulty understanding why it seems like in t that it is good to need my T.
I just had a session last week where my T asked what I need from him, what do I get from him, etc. That is so hard to talk about. It hard to admit how much I need him and determine what exactly it is I get from him. Even though I know he cares about people, it still feels so one-sided and then I feel silly.
The analagy of taking a drug and deciding if the side effects are worth the benefits - that is so accurate. The way I see it T has helped me so much. But - sometimes I feel a strong "need" for him, I definitely love him and think about him every day. So how is this good? Of course I've healed and grown in so many areas, but isnt the neediness like the fusion?
I just don't get it.
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