Posted by DAisym on June 26, 2007, at 19:13:45
In reply to trust **Trigger** » DAisym, posted by muffled on June 26, 2007, at 18:57:31
We know and accept that kids test the adults in their lives over and over again to see what the limits are. They also test our acceptance of them, perhaps unconsciously, but for sure when they are teens. They act out, do things they know make us mad and change themselves outwardly over and over. I can't tell you how many times I've said to my kids, "you KNEW that this would make me mad -- why did you???"
I think therapy operates in a very similiar way, at least at some level. We test and push and present different aspects of ourselves to our therapists to see if they will accept us, and if they can keep us safe by maintaining the boundaries. Trust is built in the little moments and over time. It can be shaken easily - it is definately much harder to build up than take down.
Our adult parts know that we are working with good people. Our kid parts want to test that to be sure.
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