Posted by muffled on April 23, 2007, at 22:37:00
In reply to Re: Question re:sex and honesty » muffled, posted by Kath on April 23, 2007, at 18:05:58
> You sound like such a loving, caring person. I'm sorry that it's like this for you.
**Thank you. I wish it weren't this way too.
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> Is your situation such that you could afford to see a therapist or counsellor to discuss this? The reason I ask this, is that I think communication is really important & I think it would be wonderful if you could actually talk with your guy about this.**I do have a T, but I find it difficult to talk bout this stuff face to face.
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> Maybe that feels just TOO scarey! I don't know if he knows your history of what happened to make sex so unpleasant.**I don't have memories, only splitting and weird emotions that come outta nowhere. My hubby said one time in frustration, you abused or something? I was so shocked I said nothing, then I said I had no memory of childhood so can't say, then I BOLTED.
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> Do you think that you'd ever feel safe talking with him about it? Is your relationship good?**We kinda distant, but we care bout one another. He is obvo a better communicator than me. I just hide.
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> I think that the very best sex (in marriage or out) is one where both people truly care about each other - about each other physically and emotionally.**Yeah, my T said something like that once when we talking bout tears. She was saying she get tears of happiness sometimes when she 'with' her hubby, cuz it feels so good to be close in all ways.
I doubt that I will ever have that.
But who knows I suppose.
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> It's good you're able to talk about this here at least.**Yes its HUGE to talk bout it here. You guys make me feel not so bad or weird.
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> luv, Kath**Thank you,
Take care,
Muffled
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