Posted by muffled on April 23, 2007, at 22:01:26
In reply to Re: Question re:sex and honesty » muffled, posted by sunnydays on April 23, 2007, at 16:54:24
> Admittedly, I have absolutely no experience with sex - even kissing. But I wonder if you could just talk to your hubby and tell him you get afraid when having sex, and that's why you don't like it. Then maybe you two could try different things to lessen your feelings of fear. I would bet your hubby would want to help you not be afraid if he knew you were afraid during sex. Who wants to have sex if the other person's afraid? Try talking to him. It could end up being a great bonding experience for you two as a couple. Of course, I could be full of it, since, as I said, I have no personal experience in the matter.
**Actually SD you have a point!!! Duhhh. I never even THOT of saying I scared. I just was thinking it makes me feel bad, so then i thot he'd feel bad. But if he understands its fear (well, terror, to the point of nausea), well that makes it proly not seem so bad from his perspective.....
Thanks for your input, sometimes people not 'there' can see things more simply as you have.
My husband is an absolute dear.
I am mworking up my courage...
Thanks SD.
Hope you doing OK w/your T and all.
Muffled
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