Posted by littleone on April 18, 2007, at 22:05:00
In reply to freaked out, posted by sunnydays on April 17, 2007, at 22:09:56
Hey sunnydays,
This has helped me before, so it might help you too.
Print out these couple of posts so you can clearly see exactly what you're upset about and exactly what you're afraid of.
Then keep an eye out for a time when you don't feel and believe these things. When this time comes, write your little kid a letter reassuring her and telling her the things she needs to hear. You know better than anyone what would help.
Then next time these fears/feelings come up for you, you can read the letter and help your little kid.
I know that when I was stuck in those feelings/beliefs I used to say "but I *always* feel/believe those things". But I don't. They come and go. Just like I'm pretty sure yours come and go too.
Like maybe if you wrote the letter when you feel real happy, or just before/after a session, or maybe just as you leave one of those really good sessions that leave you feeling all warm and fuzzy. Maybe you could even write it *in* your session with your T?
This letter trick really helps me a lot. Especially if I write it from my heart and am completely honest in it. Then I *know* that I believed my letter completely at one stage. Even if I don't on the bad day, I know I have believed it completely before and will again. It helps to remind me that I'm not stuck in that feeling permanently and that maybe I'm just not thinking real straight when all those upsetting thoughts/fears are clamouring real loud.
poster:littleone
thread:750536
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