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Re: Stories » littleone

Posted by Daisym on April 16, 2007, at 0:25:47

In reply to Stories, posted by littleone on April 14, 2007, at 22:03:56

I have a suggestion if I may --

Often day-to-day interactions seem mundane or meaningless. But if you could consider that your brief words with someone might mean a great deal to them, then perhaps you might be more inclined to think of them as "deep." You just don't know when your smile, or "hello, how are you?" will make a difference. Chatting in the grocery store line makes people feel like part of their community, share things like weather or traffic makes us all feel connected. I know that seems trite or silly, but I try so hard to "see" other people; it doesn't take much but it goes so far. I love being able to say (and mean) to an older person, "what a lovely scarf, or pin, or whatever." Or to make some small gesture to a young child. I always take a moment to look the cashier or waitress in the face and really listen to her/his answer when I say, "fine thank you, and you?" when some one says, "how are you?" It surprises them that I expect an answer. But then, they always end up telling me! I think it is so important to be heard. That is why stories are important. Connections - our shared lives -- community and our shared hopes and dreams. If we lose this, I think we will grow so much more isolated and suspicious in our existence. We will forget to just be nice to each other.

I hope this doesn't sound too preachy.

I loved your dino story too. I gave my therapist a small figurine that stays with him and I'm always so pleased to see that it stays out where I can see it. I never thought of it as spying but I can see that fitting into part of my motivation. :)

 

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