Posted by Dinah on March 23, 2007, at 17:59:16
In reply to Freaking out over letter to T :(, posted by gazo on March 22, 2007, at 17:03:12
I'm sorry. I've been on something of a work roll, and not focusing as well as I could be.
I'm not entirely sure of your situation with the new therapist as much as I could be. Do you have much of a choice in therapists? I think if you have the ability to choose the therapist that's right for you, it might be a good idea to have relatively frank discussions before you get too attached to a new therapist, because that's when it hurts least to leave.
But I think most of us would agree with the studies that say therapist theoretical orientation isn't as important as client/therapist fit. Especially since most therapists are relatively flexible. It might be equally as worthwhile to meet with the new therapist and see how it feels to you. And maybe sound out his theoretical viewpoints as you go. If your old therapist recommended him, they probably have similar viewpoints. Or in some areas of the world, you can pretty much assume that all therapists will be CBT.
My therapist would have answered that he does CBT, and if I knew what that was at the time, I might have walked. As it was, I went to see him because he was the only person I spoke to who seemed genuinely interested in working with me. Through all our rocky start, there was something about him that radiated calm. He is so wonderfully placid and accepting. I always say that he is open and receptive, with a firm core. I might from time to time wish that my therapist were more analytically trained or more likely to offer deep insights, but the truth is I wouldn't willingly exchange that for anyone else.
So in other words, I just don't know.
You've missed an important work deadline? I can see why you're upset. It's a shame the weekend comes before your meeting with your boss. Are you sure you'll be let go? I missed a deadline for the first time ever, and I thought for sure I'd be fired. But I wasn't. I got fussed at and they discussed ways to improve my performance and it was dreadfully unpleasant. But I remain chained to the job.
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