Posted by mair on December 31, 2006, at 17:29:54
In reply to Pulling away and closing down, posted by annierose on December 30, 2006, at 13:41:31
Do you know the TV show "Curb your Enthusiasm?" There's this episode where Larry, the main character, goes to the beach one day and sees his rather overweight middle-aged male therapist there with a thong bathing suit on. He's so disgusted and he ultimately drops therapy without ever telling his T why.
I've a couple of experiences with my own T where I've had to confront stuff I had found out about her. I discovered after I started seeing her, for instance, that she was actually a friend of a colleague whom I discussed alot in therapy, because my relationship with him was so poor. I found out that her father had died very prematurely (years before) and found that I suddenly was very inhibited talking about my own father in the negative way that I did. I found some stuff out about her relationship with her husband which became a huge, but fortunately temporary impediment to therapy, and for a brief time, did seem like a deal-breaker. Although it was never easy for me to bring up any one of these things, putting them out on the table did help. You can't deal with the pink elephant in the room unless you both know it's there.
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