Posted by Tamar on December 26, 2006, at 20:00:32
In reply to anyone still in love with their T..? Or not..?, posted by Scentedgarden on December 6, 2006, at 14:41:36
Hi Scentedgarden,
I haven’t been on the boards for a while but I read your thread and wanted to respond, though I realise I‘m somewhat late. I’ve come to the conclusion that sexual love for a therapist isn’t so different from platonic love.
I recognise all to well the desire to hear your therapist’s moans of pleasure, and I used to feel the same kind of thing for my therapist. That was when we were working on particular stuff; now that we’re working on different stuff I no longer feel the sexual excitement (well, maybe every now and then) but I do feel intense platonic love and I still feel devastated at the lack of reciprocation.
I wish I could be of more help to you, but I think there’s always something painful about love for a therapist, whether it’s sexual or not. I think it’s partly a symbolic pain: it represents previous losses and disappointments and other times when we have felt unloved or unattractive. I suspect that part of the remedy is learning to believe you’re loveable and beautiful. And I’m sure you are loveable and beautiful, but maybe you don’t believe it yet.
I hope you find your way through these confusing feelings!
Tamar
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