Posted by sunnydays on November 18, 2006, at 22:11:55
In reply to Re: please...., posted by Jost on November 18, 2006, at 21:49:35
> Sunnydays, of course it's okay.
**** See, part of why I'm worried about it is that I am in this DBT group and we were talking about self-soothing as a distress tolerance skill. I think they might have meant this in a different way than I took it, but they said it's important to soothe yourself because some people get caught up looking for other people to soothe them. And I took that to mean - you should think you deserve comfort, but you should be able to fill that need yourself. And I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it quite that strictly, and I think it was more if people are always getting into relationships and clinging to get people to satisfy those needs. I tend to be scared of relationships and it's huge for me to let someone in to soothe me. But it just made me feel like it's wrong for me to do that, somehow. So it's not? Or at least not bad to want it?
> You will find the comfort you're looking for. Thanksgiving is one of the hardest times in the year. You'll get through it and reconnect.***** I know, it just seems like such a very long time.
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> He'll be there. Even though it seems far away, he'll be there.**** That brought tears to my eyes. Because that's one of the biggest things I'm afraid of. Is that he'll be gone. And that I'll be alone again.
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> I'm sorry that it's so hard now.
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> {{{Sunny}}}
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> Jostt
**** Thank you Jost.sunnydays
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