Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2006, at 8:09:59
In reply to Re: not liking my T's 'other' clients » Dinah, posted by Jost on October 5, 2006, at 23:27:34
I'm sorry, because I must have phrased my response very badly. :( That's not how I meant you to feel at all, and I'm sorry if I implied any of that. It really really wasn't my impression.
I'm sure how you react isn't a peculiarity at all. I'm sure many many people feel that way.
It's just that my own particular pattern is to choose someone who can't, by definition, be completely reciprocal in sharing my feelings. And then try my best to defy that reality. And to succeed to some extent (because if I don't succeed at all there's no reward and I'll walk away and forget the whole thing), and then feel like if I just try a bit harder, I'll succeed a bit more, and eventually set myself up for disappointment.
Generally these are people who, given their position, are actually reasonably likely to make me feel special. I just set it up so that I can never really appreciate that fully because my goals are always higher.
And I've gotten to find that amusing in myself. :)
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