Posted by mayzee on July 25, 2006, at 20:54:21
In reply to Re: as above, breaking my heart, posted by inimitable on July 25, 2006, at 12:10:14
> my T says i fantasize a lot. and i do, about all things not just this T situation but about what my life will be like in the future, all the things i'll do....how good life WILL be. because even though i don't completely enjoy life right now (i have good moments) i KNOW there is something in the future for me, worth waiting for.
>It's good to maintain that positive base of hope; to be able to see for yourself that you are hopeful about the future!
My problem with fantasizing was that, for decades, I used to always think about what things would be like in the future, telling myself things like, "things will be better when...". But not getting myself to be active in the NOW. So years went by and things didn't get better. I wasn't in therapy back then. Don't mean to be a downer; just my own cautionary tale. So I guess I feel like fantasizing is healthy (& fun) as long as I don't try to live in there versus living life now. (which is a tendency for me)
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