Posted by Jost on July 17, 2006, at 21:41:14
In reply to get kicked out?, posted by Karolina on July 16, 2006, at 23:14:11
Karolina, this is a rare event-- and unless a T doesn't understand how to handle their responsibilities, certainly wouldn't happen out of the blue.
I can't imagine any T calling and ending with someone over the phone. I guess it can happen. That T (of jammerlich's) must have have some own her own problems, to handle it so badly.
You've said you're very afraid your T might do this-- But maybe you can see this more as a fear, maybe of abandonment, or of your not deserving respect and concern, or-- of other issues from your life.
A fear is not a reality: even though you can scare yourself a lot, it's part of what you're going to learn from this relationship: why you have this fear, and how to know within yourself that you're okay-- and will be okay, even if challenges arise.
Keep talking about this with him-- and if you feel that he's being inappropriate, maybe you need to reevaluate. Have you been able to ask about the way he looks at you? and some of your other uncomfortable feelings? Or in some way allude to it, so it can begin to be straightened out?