Posted by sunnydays on July 8, 2006, at 20:07:48
In reply to the letdown after something ends » MidnightBlue, posted by ElaineM on July 8, 2006, at 16:47:18
(((Elaine))) Please don't accept his offer to send you to school. The therapist-client relationship is hard enough as it is, I wouldn't want you to feel burdened with thoughts of owing him anything or being indebted to him. And it wouldn't buy you back your doctor, I'm sorry, but it wouldn't. Taking that offer would bring so many complications into your relationship with your T. I just don't think it would be the best thing for you at all. And you deserve the best, ElaineM. Your T probably has many very fine qualities, but he should not be helping his patients out financially. His job is to help them emotionally and mentally, not financially. He is not a bank, and he is not your parents, and he should not give you money. I'm really sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm really really concerned for you. I don't want you to make a decision that could make your life even more complicated than it already is.
And there's nothing wrong with questioning your T. There's nothing wrong with questioning anybody. You're an individual, and allowed to have your own thoughts and feelings and make your own decisions. How can one make good decisions without doing some questioning and soul-searching?
I think it's good that you found Babble. It's good to have people you can rely on and who will support you. But we're online. Is there any way you could figure out to meet some people in real life? Maybe join a club, or a support group? There are plenty of those that are free, if you don't have a lot of money.
Anyway, I hope this finds you feeling alright. (((ElaineM))) hang in there
sunnydays
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