Posted by Tamar on May 27, 2006, at 5:20:25
In reply to Re: I think I'm crazy (possible triggers) » Tamar, posted by annierose on May 26, 2006, at 16:37:51
> WOW! That was my first reaction. It was very powerful and pure. I hope you can share this post with him. And I really wish he was psychodynamic so you could work on all these issues more often than once a week. You would benefit from a more intimate theraputic working relationship.
The funny thing is, he has been much more psychodynamic with me this time around. And I’d like more intimacy but I feel he’s trying to run away from me. I may be projecting of course…
> I do think its natural for the relationship to wax and wane. Sometimes they feel close, sometimes distance, and often it's how we perceive them, not how they actually feel about us.
Yes, that makes sense. When I think about it logically, I know he cares about me. I’ve seen it in his eyes. It’s apparent in the way he talks to me. He has put himself on the line (emotionally) for me and been prepared to support me through some really difficult stuff. And maybe I want that every session, but maybe it’s not always appropriate.
> You have a solid grasp of what you want and need to talk about. A therapist dream. A client who has access to their emotions and the ability to put those feelings into words. When you feel he is avoiding a subject do you tell him? I once told my T, "I want to talk about x and it feels like you are avoiding that topic." She quickly said, "Let's talk about x." Of course, at that moment my 2 year old wanted to have a tantrum over her seemingly lack of interest in the topic of x, but the adult in me forged ahead with the conversation.
Oh yes! Talking about x is something I’d like to run away from too! But sometimes I think they really are avoiding things, and maybe I’m odd but I’d like my therapist to be aware of what he’s avoiding and be honest about it. I don’t need him to tell me why he might avoid something, but if he would only acknowledge that some issues are difficult for him then perhaps we could negotiate the discussion together. But if he insists that we can talk about anything and then seems to avoid stuff it feels as if he’s being dishonest and disingenuous, and I don’t think that helps me.
> Keep talking. You will get there.
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> It's nice to have you around babble.It’s nice to be here. Thanks very much for your support.
Tamar
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