Posted by Tamar on February 23, 2006, at 17:31:11
In reply to Can Anyone Relate to This?, posted by mair on February 21, 2006, at 17:12:36
Hi Mair,
I haven't read the whole thread, because I'm really pushed for time at the moment (sick baby etc...) but I did want to respond because I've had the same experience from time to time.
Usually for me it's been when I've been at my most depressed. Sometimes I hear other people's therapy stories and I feel very sad - either because they're talking about something lovely that I've never experienced in therapy, or because they're talking about something painful that I'd hate to experience.
One of the ways I try to deal with it is: I try to remind myself that other people's therapy is *their* therapy and might not work for me. For example, I would love to hug my therapist, as others here sometimes do, but I think in fact it would raise a lot of difficulties for me because I have huge problems with intimacy. So what works for another Babbler might not work for me.
I try to trust my therapist to do what he thinks is best for me. And I know he's prepared to negotiate: if I ever asked him for a hug I'm sure he'd discuss it with me rather that refusing outright, and that would be the right thing for me because he's the right therapist for me.
I know you've made numerous perceptive observations here and you've offered a lot of support to many people. I'm sorry that you haven't felt so supported here, and I wonder if you might feel better about things if you were able to post directly and up front about the things that bother you. If something makes you question your therapy, can you raise the question here? One thing I've learned at Babble is that people are generally willing to try to see things from your perspective and to try to offer as much support as possible.
One thing that restores my faith in human nature is the way people here can offer love and friendship to each other, even if their political and emotional and social perspectives are very divergent. If you feel a bit uncomfortable, it's always worth mentioning it, because other people can probably relate.
I hope you'll begin to feel more comfortable here because I know people here care very much about you, and I've seen that you care very much about others here...
Tamar
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