Posted by mair on February 22, 2006, at 13:15:15
In reply to Re: Can Anyone Relate to This? » mair, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2006, at 10:03:30
You are much more comfortable with the on-going value of therapy than I am. The idea of forever therapy makes me shudder although it's hard for me to really imagine that there will be a time when I won't need it. My T always tries to reinforce the idea that I won't be in therapy forever, because she knows it bothers me, but she also says I have a real problem believing that it's ok to be taken care of. So maybe that's where some of my ambivalence comes from.
When I told her about the unfavorable comparison problem with the Babbles, I only talked about how I compare myself to other therapy patients, but I've had the experience you've had, of wishing my T was more like Daisy's for instance. I think this is part of what's kept me away. I've been in too bad a place to have it be healthy for me to constantly question whether my T is the right T for me. I needed to stop thinking about that.
PS: Dinah - I hope I'm not speaking out of turn here, but my observation is that over the years you've done so much work with your T on developing your relationship. I've always gotten the impression that he's had to work at it as much as you have, so I hope you both can value how far you both have come and I hope you can feel proud of the extent to which you've persevered.