Posted by JenStar on January 27, 2006, at 16:14:00
In reply to OCD is quite a bit better, posted by Dinah on January 27, 2006, at 10:50:01
Dinah,
sometimes I tell people "you're strong" partly because I *do* think so, and partly because I want to WILL it to be so. If I'm at all worried about someone, I tell them, "You'll be OK" (hoping that my saying so will mystically set some cosmic rules into action and steer my statement into the absolute). If I'm worried that someone ISN'T going to be strong in a situation, I try to reassure them that they ARE strong, as if my vehemence alone will convince them: "Well, I thought i WASN'T strong, but hey, JenStar says I am, so what do you know -- guess I'm strong after all!"I know that might be foolish and a verbal talisman of sorts, but when we call you strong, I think what we're saying it:
I've honestly seen examples in the past where you were very strong
I *hope* you can stay strong through this, even though you sould wobbly right now, because I so much want you to be OK
take care!
JenStar
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