Posted by lookdownfish on October 19, 2005, at 18:35:33
In reply to Talking about transference to your husband/SO?, posted by orchid on October 19, 2005, at 16:36:06
Hi Orchid.
My husband knows that I am crazy about my current T. I think he is quite tolerant about it, and seems to understand that it is not the same kind of love that I have for him and that actually, the one kind of feeling doesn't necessarily interfere with the other. I think it helps that my T is a woman and although I am bisexual (inactively), because she is a she, he is able to put it in a different category.
My feelings for my T seem to escalate when things are bad between me and my husband. I think he feels a bit uncomfortable about the fact that I obviously seek a parental figure to look after me, and I get that from my T and he can't do that for me.
I think it would be really nice for you if your husband understood what you went through with your former T. I know it is a very lonely feeling to be in a relationship with someone but not be able to share that kind of stuff. But, is your husband quite a psychologically astute kind of guy? It would take a good level of empathy from him to be able to understand.
sorry if I'm waffling. had a few drinks 2nite.
lookdownfish
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