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Re: Talking about transference to your husband/SO? orchid

Posted by JenStar on October 19, 2005, at 19:15:25

In reply to Re: Talking about transference to your husband/SO? JenStar, posted by orchid on October 19, 2005, at 18:27:36

hi Orchid,
I supposed it also depends on your definition of "big" secret. To me, it doesn't seem THAT big to withold a discussion about transference, but then again, that's ME. I guess I'm OK keeping some stuff private and "secret" from my husband.

I don't think of it as witholding stuff in a mean way, or selfish way, or untrusting way. I think of it as actually being good to him, not to burden him with the minutiae of my neuroses and issues.

I mean, he's VERY helpful and great, and he loves me, and he listens well. But I don't think that telling him EVERY feeling I have would be beneficial to him or us. It would only burden him with maybe more worry about me and my stability, or hurt him unnecessarily. I do tell him lots of stuff and we work through it, but still, there are some things that don't seem that they'd be "right" to share. It wouldn't deeper our relationship in any special way, and I don't want to make him worry.

But that's me. In case it seems like "you" too, I wanted to offer it up for consideration! :)

JenStar


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