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Re: T says he's sorry. That's all :( kerria

Posted by JenStar on September 17, 2005, at 13:13:14

In reply to Re: T says he's sorry. That's all :( fairywings, posted by kerria on September 17, 2005, at 12:10:49

Kerria,
I'm truly sorry you're suffering.

I know I've said this before, and I'll just say it this one more time, so I don't start to sound like any annoying broken record. And in advance, I'm NOT trying to be mean or b**chy, but I'm very worried when I hear you talk like you've given up on everything!

It really sounds to me like you're acting a bit like a suffering martyr, and not taking responsibility for yourself, your actions or your future. I think it is not your T's job to fix your life -- it's YOUR job, and the T can help. But if you set him up to be your sole savior, protector, guardian, understander, etc -- you're really setting yourself up for disappointment, because no T can or will be those things.

You're blaming a lot on your family, your husband, your T, the hospital, the system in general. I agree that all of those people/places are probalby not perfect, and might sometimes be cruel/disappointing. But it really sounds to me that you're not really taking actions or responsibility to help yourself get better.

I know that I don't understand what it's like to have parts or to be in chronic pain, but if you're TRULY unable to function AT ALL - even to get to an appointment -- I think you need SERIOUS inpatient help.

I don't think it's fair for someone say that their T or your therapy is ruining them...that's (in my opinion) giving too much power to the T, and a way of dodging responsibility for ones own issues and problems.

Kerria, I'm sorry again if I sounded harsh. But I just don't see how you're going to improve at all if you just keep complaining about the T, about the system, about the doctors, about your H...and not doing anything to improve your situation.

I truly wish you can find the strength to get a new T, get into an in-patient program, learn how to communicate within yourself, and start enjoying life again. I wish you that so very much!

Take care of yourself, and best of luck.
JenStar


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