Posted by Shortelise on May 5, 2005, at 19:47:28
In reply to Re: Is friendship supposed to be better?, posted by cricket on May 5, 2005, at 14:32:23
ANother good point. No, I wouldn't want to be friends with my T. We're not friends, he's not my friend, he's my therapist, he's my psychiatrist. It's kind of like wondering if I would want my gastro-enterologist as my friend, y'know, the guy who did the big look up my bum with the good drugs and the camera? Like, hey, I really liked him, he's a jolly, kind man, my age, intelligent, but, as we're sitting there at the dinner table is he thinking, wow, she shouldn't be eating that! I know JUST what's going to happen in her colon, and it's not going to be pretty, and I sure don't want to be around in a couple of hours for the smells it's going to generate. Woof!
Being "friends" with my T, impossible! He knows every twist and turn of my psyche, or thinks he does. I wouldn't want him at my dinner table, wouldn't want him near my friends, wouldn't want him getting drunk on champagne and letting slip anything one might let slip when one has a glass to many. He can let those things slip around his own friends, keep me out of it! And I need him invulnerable, strong, and safe. For later, maybe. Friends, I have some already. I'll keep my psychiatrist for psychiatry.
There would just be too much history. Our relationship is very intimate, takes place in a small room, between four walls, and my feelings of closeness to him are based on having his attention focussed on me entirely. I don't know how that could translate into the real world. I don't think it could, it's so outside of the real world. I prefer to write to him, to keep in touch with him with a phone call, a letter, but always professionally, never personally.
It would slay me if I had a therapist who cut me off, who sent me off into the sunset, and refused to keep in touch. That is cruel, unless I go off the deep end about him, and it's the only way to help me find some equilibrium.
ShortE
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