Posted by pinkeye on May 4, 2005, at 21:36:15
In reply to Re: Is friendship supposed to be better? » JenStar, posted by Dinah on May 4, 2005, at 20:32:03
It could work the other way also... Ah he knows so much about me, and he knows all the ugly details about my life, that he must truly hate me. Nobody could like me after knowing me fully. I think it depends on how you perceive yourself.
I have felt both ways many times.
> > Maybe it's because it's hard to "get" that someone who sees the "real us" isn't magnetically drawn to us; doesn't go crazy trying to find a way to be with us all the time. After all, if we're so great (which we're learning to feel about ourselves), why isn't the T breaking down doors to be our friend? Anyway, that's the way it would go in MY mind, I think!
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> Ahhhh. Ok, that I understand. I guess I assume it's because he's so darned delighted to be my therapist (wink) that he couldn't bear to leave that behind. :)
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> > I admire the kind of relationship you have with your T. I think it's really a good role-model of what the healthy client/T relationship looks like!
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> > take care,
> > jenStar
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> Thanks JenStar. I've always thought it works so well precisely because I have no further desires from him. So I do understand that.
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> I suppose I'm a bit hampered by the fact that I'm very skilled at wanting what's possible to have, and pretty much never noticing if on the odd chance I actually want something more.
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