Posted by mair on March 11, 2005, at 13:26:22
In reply to I have called, posted by Skittles on March 11, 2005, at 10:44:08
Skittles, I picked up the same thing Susan did. You are the patient. You are not responsible for her feelings. It's not your job to take care of her. She certainly had a hand in how you reacted.
I realize that some degree of remourse is inevitable. I've told my own T that I see nothing wrong with being concerned about her. She acknowledges this only so long as it doesn't prevent me from raising issues because I'm afraid of how she'll take them on a personal level.
So go ahead an apologize if you must. But don't let that get in the way of what is much more important, namely the need to process your own anger towards her. That should be the real focus of the next session.
I hope she sees this too, and I hope she'll remind you that problems have to be worked through in every relationship. Reserve judgment on quitting until you've given working things out a try.
And of course let us know how it goes.
mair
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