Posted by Susan47 on March 11, 2005, at 11:27:36
In reply to I have called, posted by Skittles on March 11, 2005, at 10:44:08
I hope you don't mind me putting it in here again, Skittles, but you are taking responsibility for her feelings.
Can I say this about me, Skittles, and can you understand this about what happened with my last therapist? I felt so rotten, so bad about myself, the way I was, the way I felt I was behaving, that I turned myself inside out trying to explain things. I've said this before and I'm saying it again: I Wiped The Floor With Myself.
Please stop doing that with your own self. If I'm wrong, forgive me. I just know you're taking too much responsibility. A little bit is okay, but if you try to explain yourself once to her, and she doesn't respond the way you need her to, then don't put yourself out there with her again because she will continue to disappoint you. Mine did. He was completely unable to grow as a person. This T you have MAY be like that as well, or she may not. But be careful, because I can tell you're extremely empathetic to her; I was dangerously so with my ex-T and he never ever saw that. He almost destroyed me.
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