Posted by gardenergirl on February 19, 2005, at 10:21:13
In reply to Re: Freud anyone?, posted by sunny10 on February 17, 2005, at 11:33:36
Oh, I think this issues is always a can of worms.
I think in the scenario you described, which sounds a bit yucky, btw (I had the same reaction as you just reading it) that you were not really the aggressor. He invaded your space--crossed a boundary. So your reaction was a defense of that. I'm glad you are practicing debating with your SO. He sounds like a bit of a challenge due to his behavior. Can you talk to him about his aggressive behavior? Or is he trying to make it hard to give you good practice?
And about others, hmmm. I guess if you get someone literally in your face like that...well, one thing I have used is to start to speak even quieter and calmer. The louder and more aggressive they get, the calmer I get. But this only works if I am not emotionally enaged, of course. I'm thinking of times when I worked in retail long ago and had a poopy customer. Or the teaching episode I described in a post above.
You get me riled up personally and when I have an emotional tie to you, watch out! The tears will flow, because I am a serious cryer. I HATE that too.