Posted by Miss Honeychurch on February 1, 2005, at 8:40:35
In reply to To Tell or Not to Tell New T.(long), posted by 10derHeart on January 31, 2005, at 17:56:25
I'm going to approach this from an economic standpoint. I believe in order to "get your money's worth" out of therapy, that it behooves you to lay it all on the table, especially since you believe this has proven in the past very important to your therapy. If you do not reveal this, then won't a part of the puzzle be missing? Won't you be withholding information which could prove beneficial to your therapy? And therefore won't you be wasting time and money?
I completely understand your feelings for your old T, but you also arent' helping your current therapeutic relationship by somewhat idealizing your last T, placing him somewhat on a pedestal, and assigning him an untouchable place in your heart with a secret only the two of you can share.
Does this make sense? Believe me, I have been there. It is so easy for me to idealize people from my past at the expense of people in my present.
What do you think?