Posted by Daisym on January 31, 2005, at 23:09:06
In reply to Re: To Tell or Not to Tell New T.(long), posted by mair on January 31, 2005, at 19:27:10
My therapist would say something like, "if you are spending a fair amount of time thinking about something then it is important and you should share it." And then we would talk about the motivation behind keeping it a secret as well as why some part of me would want to share whatever it is.
That said -- I think you need to examine your own hopes about sharing this. If, as Mair pointed out, you want to use this as a tool to "recapture" a moment, it may end up being painful. You've barely begun to work with your new Therapist. Is it possible that those old fears of abandonment are up for some reason with this new guy?
Whatever you decide to do, I hope you know that your behavior was understandable and you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself. We all do things that seem inconsistent with our better judgement at times. I doubt your new therapist would be shocked.
This sounds like a really hard decision. I hope you don't struggle with it too long.
Hugs from me,