Posted by smokeymadison on January 24, 2005, at 19:37:32
In reply to Re: t2 and the light, posted by alexandra_k on January 24, 2005, at 18:43:50
it is very hard to live in the present. you have to learn new behaviors b/c the ones you have now were learned in response to terrible things that happened in the past. in my case, and it sounds like in yours too, it has been so long since i had any peace of mind that i have forgotten what it is like. perhaps i never had it, actually. but that doesn't mean that things can't ne different in the future. i too need to grieve, but when i try, i just fall deep into uncontrollable depression. i have yet how to grieve effectively. maybe i could set a certain amount of time aside to really grieve, basically think about what i have been through and feel bad about it and when the time is up, return to the present. i wouldn't go as far as to actually set a timer or anything, but i would give myself that certain length of time to go over the past and then, enough, back to the present. just some thoughts.
SM
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