Posted by JenStar on August 24, 2004, at 11:22:34
In reply to ew?, posted by shortelise on August 24, 2004, at 0:47:11
cool post, shortelise! It gave me lots to think about. I like the way you were able to imagine being in a T's shoes and empathize with the difficulties they must face.
I agree that an appropriate apology should be given if needed. Perhaps some T's are under-confident or feel that giving an apology would be tantamount to giving up control or showing weakness?
I remember in the movie U571 (bear with me, this will get back to therapy!) the captain told his right hand man never to show signs of fear or indecision; it won't make the men like you better, it will just let them know you're not capable and in-charge.
Maybe a T feels the same way -- that they ALWAYS have to have the answers, that short term an apology will be well-accepted but long-term it would be seen as a weakness?
Still, though, I see it as a sign of strength. I too wouldn't want to see a T who was unable to ever 'give' a bit.
JenStar
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