Posted by Susan47 on August 23, 2004, at 17:14:14
In reply to not getting what I need/asking too much, posted by thewrite1 on August 23, 2004, at 14:18:25
Some, but I'll bet not all, therapists give this impression. Mine did too. He never apologized for anything, everything was supposed to be a reflection of myself. At times it was infuriating. I think these therapists try really hard to be a blank slate, and the reason it doesn't work is (a) some of us really *are* hypervigilant, and (b) no one is a blank slate. It's an act. It *has* to be an act, but sometimes the real person comes through; the therapist's challenge, I think, is knowing when the real self has snuck through and affected the patient/therapist relationship. I think when the therapist is confronted by a client about this when it occurs, he or she has a responsibility to face it honestly, or trust breaks down. I really didn't like it when my therapist refused to be introspective. You did the right thing in talking to your therapist about this, write1. Hopefully she'll see how she's messing with your mind by being dishonest about it. But that's only my opinion and I'm known to be wrong quite often ...
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