Posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2004, at 0:08:14
In reply to Re: technical questions » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on August 7, 2004, at 19:32:04
> My motives are surer than that. So, don't enlist myself or another person to validate this "bad" habit of yours.",
My "aha" is that although I and others have responded to your posts and I am intrigued by it, I think the "enlistment" part has been missing from these dialogs. Your threads often come standing alone versus in response to a poster's request for feedback or advice (although I have also seen you reach out to posters in need :) ). But I think part of what I feel is a bit like I've experienced unsolicited advice that feels critical in some way to me. I recognize that this perception of criticism is my own issue and likely is not coming from you, but that is what is bothersome to me. I can feel my self-doubt and anger with myself flaring.
Just wanted to share this observation I had. It may not be what anyone else experiences. But I do think it can get in my way of an effective dialog about your model.
Take care,
gg
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