Posted by AuntieMel on July 21, 2004, at 16:34:41
In reply to Re: non-forgiveness is ok » AuntieMel, posted by daisym on July 21, 2004, at 13:37:20
Exactly to you, too.
Graciousness is behavior. A good behavior in my opinion. I would rather be thought of as "cold" than react negatively and be thought of as a b**ch.
Forgiveness, however comes from the heart. This can't be forced and often takes a long time. The person that can take being purposely hurt, or has trust betrayed and forgive immediately (or says they do, more likely) seems to be a bit too needy.
And Dinah is right. You can't forgive a person for what they did to someone else - it just isn't your right. But you can try to understand what the offending person's motivations are and *maybe* help soften the hurt.
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