Posted by karen_kay on July 21, 2004, at 13:26:57
In reply to Re: forgiveness, posted by pegasus on July 21, 2004, at 12:38:39
right pegasus, i think that's a lot of what i was saying. about the right words being said, at just the right time. when you're in just the right frame of mind. i think part of it is an active choice. and part of it is something else too. honestly, i wish i knew... (there i go. being dense again :)
i think the more you try to forgive, and the more you think about forgiving, the more it doesn't come. but, perhaps the more you jsut let it pass over you (do i sound like some kind of a new age person in a moo moo?) like a feeling (hmmm, is it a feeling? do i sound dense again? shoudl i just stop here? at least i'm feeling better though. thank you for the distraction. i needed it!)... but, the more you jsut allow it to come, when it needs to, then it will. like, letting a cloud pass over the sun. (good grief, i sound like jai, not that that's a bad thing.)
my therapist says you can choose to forgive. and i suppose you can. but, you can also decide that it will come in time, when it's time to come. like a change in weather. and when you are ready to hear the right things, from the right person, you will. and it will make sense.
but, that's jsut what i think. and, if i hear soemthing better, i'll probably change my mind, and take to that philosophy....
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