Posted by pegasus on July 21, 2004, at 12:38:39
In reply to forgiveness, posted by henrietta on July 20, 2004, at 19:00:05
The whole idea of forgiveness really confuses me. People talk about it as though it's something you can choose to do. It doesn't *feel* that way to me, though. I have forgiven people, but it feels more like something that just sometimes eventually happens over time as I gain distance and perspective. And sometimes it just doesn't.
There have certainly been things in my life that I've tried to move beyond, or examine my role in, or rise above. But I wouldn't say that forgiveness was really part of that equation. Sometimes I ended up forgiving, and sometimes not.
So, I'm curious whether you all feel that you are able to choose to forgive. If you develop that magnanamous, generous feeling then you've probably changed your attitude, and reframed the issue in your life to be more workable. But deep down underneath it all, have you really forgiven the other person at all?
pegasus
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