Posted by DaisyM on April 23, 2004, at 22:19:43
In reply to Second of two homework assignments, posted by Dinah on April 23, 2004, at 17:35:58
This is a really tough question when you frame it as a moral dilemma...
I would assert that your concerns about your son's social life could come in to play here too. Most kids do not want their parents to stand out, good or bad. So conforming some would be good for him. That doesn't mean you are teaching him to not be your own person, you are sending the message that there is a time and place for everything. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.
My children know that they have to wear certain things in church, certain things at grandma's or to school and a bathing suit in the pool. I don't say much about what they choose to wear, as long as it isn't offensive to any group, hate wear, etc.
I think we all learn what certain modes of dress mean. Try thinking of it as a costume for certain occasions. Yesterday I wore my white suite and red heels. I was presenting at a conference and needed to "look" like I was in charge (of what, I have no idea :). Other days I wear a lot less formal attire.
I think you have to just shift your thinking away from someone else's opinion "making" you and choosing to change, a little here and a little there.
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