Posted by pegasus on March 15, 2004, at 13:34:21
In reply to admiting to stalking u T, posted by obSession on March 13, 2004, at 17:35:14
OK, I've done some things that would normally be considered stalking, I suppose. But they didn't hurt anyone, and he didn't know about most of them, and I would never actually peek in someone's windows or anything. But publicly available information is, I think, fair game. So here's what I've done:
1. Googled him, of course, several times.
2. Checked out web sites of organizations he belongs to (discovered via google).
3. Searched the internet to find out where he's going when he goes to "conferences" - I always found out too. :) And they weren't always conferences per se.
4. Walked by his house. (But this was by accident! We live pretty near each other, and his house is on the path of a walk my husband and I often take - even before I met my T. But I recognized the car.)
5. Looked him up in the phone book (to confirm that that was really his house).
6. And the coup de grace - when he decided to move away and put his house on the market, I found the listing on the internet, and actually got to look at pictures of the house, including of many of the rooms. He doesn't live there any more. But I think this is the worse stalking-type thing I did. Nevertheless, it was really comforting in the midst of a very tumultuous early termination of therapy.So, how bad am I? I hope to god he never reads this, or he'll never talk to me again!
- p
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