Posted by Penny on February 17, 2004, at 16:49:19
In reply to Re: Other possibilities... » Penny, posted by All Done on February 17, 2004, at 15:33:12
We had a phone session this evening - ended just a bit ago. It snowed here, and she decided to not go in to the office due to the road conditions.
Anyway - it was a *great* session. She said all the right things, gave me a new way of looking at it, and finished with, "I didn't really expect to have a particularly meaningful session over the phone! Usually they're not that deep over the phone." And she's right - my other phone sessions with her and with my old T were fine, but not overly intense.
Essentially what she pointed out was that my reaction to his possible frustration probably has to do with the abandonment fears I have. And that since we talked about some pretty big things for me in our Thursday session, perhaps neither of us realized how vulnerable I was still feeling - then I went to see him and that vulnerability was there, and I might be feeling like I was too exposed - and she's right. She said that perhaps he was distracted b/c I had told him about my rash, and he was upset with me for not calling him when I got the rash, and so he was thinking about that and only half paying attention to the rest of the session - she said that when I become a therapist I will see that sometimes when something big is said in the early part of the session, the therapist's mind is half working on that issue and half paying attention to the rest of the session.
Anyway, she recommended that I look at this as a situation of maybe he is upset/frustrated with me, and maybe that is why he hasn't responded to my email, and if that is the case, what does that mean for me? She said she certainly wouldn't have chosen for me to go through this, but since I am, perhaps we can use it as practice for me to learn that when people get upset with me, it's not the end of the world.
I'm not entirely convinced of that.
There was a lot more she said, and I wish I had tape recorded the whole thing, b/c I'd like a transcript of that session! But, alas, I didn't - so I guess I need to try to write down as much as I can recall.
And, I'll repeat myself again...I love my therapist. She is so darn good.
And thanks, all, for your help. I really appreciate it.
P
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