Posted by All Done on February 17, 2004, at 15:33:12
In reply to Re: Other possibilities... » pegasus, posted by Penny on February 17, 2004, at 13:53:43
> Maybe he didn't get the message. Maybe. I'm not really upset, per se, about him not responding to the email - more about the session and how strange it felt to feel like he was frustrated, and so on. And, at the same time, I would feel like a doofus paging him - what would be the purpose? So, if he is frustrated with me, I p*ss him off even more? B/c that's what happened with my former T - I knew she was upset with me, I called her and asked her to call me back, she did, I lost it on the phone, she got more upset, and I ended up bottoming out and wanting to kill myself. Not that my pdoc would handle it that way - but you never know. After all, as I said, he's not perfect - he's human.
It sounds like there's a lot here that you need to talk to your pdoc about, so I wouldn't recommend cancelling your next appointment. If, in a few days or so, you still don't hear back from him, can you just send a quick e-mail with something to the effect of "just wanted to follow-up with you to make sure you received my e-mail on Friday. If you would rather discuss it at my next appointment, let me know"? Hopefully, then, he would at least have the courtesy to acknowledge that he received it.
> I guess it just makes me feel as though I shouldn't talk to him about certain things. But I don't want to feel that way. :-(
You had mentioned that your pdoc discourages transference, but I think his clients' transference issues might be something kind of difficult for *him* to control. So, I would at least bring up your issues with him and ask if he would prefer you discuss them with your T. That way, you know exactly where he stands.
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