Posted by crushedout on February 7, 2004, at 21:38:45
In reply to Re: don't get me wrong, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2004, at 21:29:21
> Hmmmm... Then I'll say no more. But I wonder. What do you consider your responsibility to be?What do you mean? I'm responsible for taking care of myself (I didn't say I was good at it, just respsible for it -- nor did I say I was willing to fulfill that responsibility all the time) and not intentionally hurting others if I can help it. (Sometimes you have to intentionally hurt others in order to take care of yourself -- for example, ending a relationship with someone because it's making you unhappy. You're intentionally hurting them, but you can't help it.)
To take another example, though, I would never consider myself responsible the hurt my T's husband might experience if she were to sleep with me, since that is between the two of them, and for all I know they don't believe in monogamy (I don't, but that's irrelevant). But I can't, for example, put a hit on him because he's in my way. Nor could I force her to sleep with me. That would be very bad.
Does that answer your question?
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