Posted by crushedout on February 6, 2004, at 17:21:19
In reply to Re: question, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 17:13:37
Hmm, I definitely don't think the whole lesbian thing scares her at all. The married thing and therapist thing, yes, I could see that. She wouldn't want to even think about any possibility that could screw those up right now maybe, so yeah, it could scare her.But it scares me to keep this hope inside, too. For my therapy. So I dunno. It's more important that I get better than that I keep her interested in me for some dim possibility way down the line, ya know? I guess maybe I'm answering my own question but I'm really undecided. I kind of see it from both angles. I'm just wondering if the two angles are a devil on one shoulder (no offense, but that would kind of be you -- don't get me wrong: i LOVE this devil!) and an angel on the other.
> Yo Crushed,
> My opinion is to keep it inside..not cause it might not come true but you MAY spook her as it is too soon and she is working on her own issues on this..like her looking at what she feels. Being she is married she may be scared INSIDE hey she IS human T or not on the female attraction deal...so why tip her off while shes looking inside herself? I say lay in wait. For instance, I am married and have been before if the one woman I had an affair with had pushed me I would have ran...but she was smart and held back cause she was gay and must have known I was scared of my own feelings...so years went by as friends WITH attraction and then wham it all happened and was GOOD so give her time...Also its not JUST the girl thing its her job and so much..she needs time. Hope rocks and you got it but must have patience and respect her space..I MEAN she admitted she is attracted to you that was a huge step one :)
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