Posted by Racer on February 1, 2004, at 0:40:08
In reply to Re: Asking T if he has sexual fantasies about you pt2, posted by Dinah on January 31, 2004, at 21:56:00
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> Heavens, I'm exposing my bad taste everywhere on the board. Should I admit that I like the salad at the Olive Garden (though admittedly that's all I like there).(Don't tell anyone, 'K? I like one of their soups...)
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> I'm going to have to ask my husband about that sexual fantasy thing. I trust him to be honest. It would honestly gross me out to think of my therapist having any sexual fantasies either within the confines of his office or that originated in his office. Sort of like sullying a pure sanctuary combined with thinking of your parents and sex at the same time.
>OK, that one cracked me up. Not too much detail, but my father -- who had been divorced by my mother when I was tiny, and who was basically homosexual -- once told me that my mother was "a lusty lass!!" Can you imagine? I already knew he was gay and was involved with other men, and he still told everyone he was really straight -- and then he mentions to me that My Mother -- the blessed virgin -- was a lusty lass?
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> I think you guys are right though. Wouldn't that knowledge taint at least aspects of future therapy? I like therapist transparency and am not a fan of the blank slate, but could you openly talk about sex or relationships if you knew your therapist had had sexual fantasies about you? I would be secondguessing every word I said for fear that I was trying to encourage or discourage the fantasies.I agree. There's a wicked part of me that would love to get into a flirting match with my pdoc, and have him respond in kind, but then I sit back and ask myself what it would accomplish? Nothing Good is the only answer I can come up with. (Which doesn't mean that I don't want to know if he's married, gay, attracted to me, only that I know better than to ask. It wouldn't help me, although if it would help someone else, go for it.)
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