Posted by Racer on January 31, 2004, at 12:39:30
In reply to Asking T if he has sexual fantasies about you pt2, posted by tinydancer on January 31, 2004, at 10:48:37
Well... Huh.
I think that it's good he was honest with you, because that fosters trust in your therapeutic relationship. On the other hand, if you perceive your behavior to be "slutty" towards him, I think that's a topic for further exploration.
What do I think about him saying yes? I think that if I were in that situation -- someone asking me if I had fantasies about him/her and then telling me that he/she wouldn't believe me if I said no -- I'd say yes whether it was true or not, in order to open the topic for discussion. (Here's another thought on the subject of sexual fantasies: maybe it's just me, but I find myself imagining myself in bed with a lot of people. I find myself in bed with one person, and a varying number of cats, but that imagining includes everything from the "gee, my neighbor is such a fun guy, even though he weighs 400 pounds, and I like his wife so much, I wonder how their sex life works with his weight, what would it be like to be in bed with him?" all the way through to the kind of fantasies where I consider every possible nuance of seduction and sex with someone specific. It's not unusual to have fantasies about someone, but it's not necessarily meaningful in any real sense. Does that make sense?)
Anyway, with the limited amount of information available, I'd say it's probably for the greater good that he admitted that to you.
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