Posted by Penny on January 9, 2004, at 10:24:13
In reply to needing a hug being refused, wish it didn't hurt, posted by metalflipflop on January 8, 2004, at 23:02:06
I had been seeing my former T for over a year before I hugged her the first time. It had been a particularly difficult session and at the end I asked her if I could hug her and she said that was fine with her. Then she initiated a hug (that I was fine with) before her maternity leave, which was kind of awkward due to the BABY in her tummy. :-) Then we hugged one more time at the end of my last session with her. sigh.
I haven't hugged my current T - I've been seeing her a year this month. Have thought about asking, and I somehow don't think she'd have a problem with it, but just haven't. I'd love to hug my pdoc, who I've been seeing for 2 years or so now, but the only thing I've done is shaken his hand. Which is fine.
But there's never been any allusion of sexual tension or anything between me and either of my Ts or my pdoc. Is that an issue with your feelings toward your T?
I tend to agree with Dinah that your T probably went to a conference or something where she was told that hugging isn't as acceptable, so she decided against it. But I suspect she doesn't realize how it made you feel either. How long have you been seeing her? Have you seen her since this happened?
Sorry you are hurting. It sucks.
P
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