Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 4, 2002, at 8:43:12
In reply to Fear of being angry., posted by Dinah on October 24, 2002, at 12:06:40
> As much as I fear and dislike the anger of others, it is my own anger that terrifies me the most. I'm okay with the intellectual sort of anger, but the visceral sort scares me to death. If I am angry with someone, I get so afraid that I have to undo it or channel it towards myself.
-----------------------We seem to be pretty similar. I have the same problem with expressing anger in any useful way. It's either suppression and avoidance, or blind rage. It's obvious to me that I've adapted this avoidance of anger because of the frequent and terrifying displays of anger from my father. I wanted to be the complete opposite of him, and have grown to equate anger with malevolence, and having no useful function.
The few times I have allowed myself to express anger have been bad... breaking things, storming off, etc. I've also noticed that I tend not to get upset with things that people do to me, but can become easily agitated when I see someone else getting put upon, especially if it's someone I care for.
I'd be interested to hear what else your therapist recommends for this problem.
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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