Posted by Pfinstegg on October 24, 2002, at 23:35:56
In reply to Re: Fear of being angry., posted by Kari on October 24, 2002, at 16:21:10
I have a lot of difficulty with anger towards important/loved people, too- terrified that they will leave if I do anything other than be "nice", even when "nice" is not called for. My therapist, like yours, has made a big point of asking me to engage my angry feelings with her as they come up. It's very scary to do, but I have been doing it as best I can anyway. It's worth it! I'm finding that somewhere deep inside myself things are really changing. I think I am learning, emotionally, not just intellectually, that anger is part of all relationships, and that it does blend in with love, joy and closeness- it isn't necessarily destructive.
When I express the fear that my therapist won't want to keep on seeing me if I keep on getting so angry at her, she replies that I have just one thing to fear- that I won't get angry and will try to cover it all up instead. So.. I just have to keep on!
Pfinstegg
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