Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2002, at 1:26:53
In reply to Re: Fear of being angry. » Kari, posted by Pfinstegg on October 24, 2002, at 23:35:56
Thanks, it helps to know I'm not alone.
You know, the really funny part is that it's not so much that I think the relationship will be destroyed because the other person will leave (although I probably fear that too).
The really scary thought is that the relationship will be destroyed because when I get angry enough with the people in my life often enough, my feelings towards them change and they become unimportant to me. I'm afraid the relationship will be destroyed by me. And if I can keep the anger directed towards me, I won't jeopardize important relationships.
I guess I'm afraid that my anger can emotionally (not physically of course) terminate the people I care about. And that's awfully lonely.
So do I trust my history? Or do I trust my therapist when he says that my relationships are doomed to a certain lack of depth if I can't feel anger towards others? Or do I first work on being able to hold on to good feelings while feeling bad feelings too? Because it just seems like too big a chance to take. I just don't think I'm ready for this assignment.
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