Posted by Jai on November 24, 2003, at 20:26:14
In reply to Re: Death is so final, posted by geramiemonkey on November 24, 2003, at 12:06:46
> This is my first post on psycho-babble. I have been reading a lot of posts, but have not gotten the courage to post yet. Anyway...here goes:
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I know what's it's like to be new on this site, I stumbled upon it and have not left.
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I and several other family members were with him in the hospital. He was in a sort of coma. He just stopped breathing and i was the first to realize that he was gone.
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You are so lucky to have been with him when he died. My father wanted us all there but we were very far away. He died alone and I know he didn't want to. I am a little heart broken about that.
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> We had him cremated.
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We had my dad cremated too. I asked for some ashes. Each of his children got a bag. Months later I finally looked at his ashes. I sifted through them with my fingers...as his ashes moved through my hands I thought about all the memorable moments I had with him. I loved him so much. I was afraid I would die when he died. As bizarre as that sounds it helped me to begin the healing.
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So there is absolutely nothing left of him here. I recently found a bowl of his pudding with his spoon still in it, and I don't have the heart to get rid of the pudding, even though it is months old.
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I love this! So sweet.
> Anyway...I chose to respond to this post because I understand where you are...exactly.
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> Crying now...and I'm at work. Better get myself under control...
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Oh, honey.
> Geramie
thank you so much for taking the time, energy and risking this posting. I invite you to post more often.
Jai
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