Posted by Dr. Bob on January 20, 2007, at 9:25:29
In reply to my thoughts **suicide triggers**, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 19, 2007, at 21:11:19
> fear. fear that threats will be carried out.
> its making babble a rather unpleasant place.
> Could you or others in the mod team feel youre being held hostage because if you block them they may do something?
> > is favoritism a concern?
Feeling afraid could certainly make it less pleasant here, I understand that. Including feeling afraid of us not keeping it safe. Either because our hands are tied or because we have favorites. Is that the feeling?
> Could these posters who post this kind of thing just be allowed to say..I feel LIKE...and then state they feel like doing things to themselves LEAVING OUT other posters, posters name and behavior or lack of it?
Sure, I think that's a good idea.
> I didn't know the exact rules for reporting about a problem
They were explained in that thread just the day before:
> I see it also as a problem where a deputy does nothing or delays doing something
It's not ideal, that's true.
> I feel my complaint was ignored ... All my other means of reporting was ignored ... I felt ignored when reporting these behaviors ... I did report it and felt I was ignored ... the real reason for my posting was ignored once again.
I'm sorry you felt ignored, that can hurt. And it already happens enough in "real" life, no one needs it here, too. But that wasn't our intent.
> I have tried a request offically of "Do Not Post" but now with the new rules, it is void from what I understand.
You tried here? It's more complicated now, that's true. A request is a valid as a request. Did I say I wasn't going to enforce it?
> Someone is communicating with me in a way that hurts me. I ask them not to communicate with me.
> That person is hurt that I ask them not to communicate with me.
If you feel harassed, then you can, as a last resort, ask them not to post to you anymore.
> I have requested that someone does not communicate to me
> Now that person writes a post about me. ... That person writes that my actions have hurt him.
Posting about you isn't considered posting *to* you. But saying you had hurt him probably would be considered something that could lead you to feel accused.
> The situation escalates.
> I write that I feel that he has put me in a situation that makes me feel extremely uncomfortable.
> He writes that if he cannot speak with me and find out how to feel better, that he will continue to feel suicidal.
Saying he had made you feel uncomfortable probably would be considered something that could lead him to feel accused. Saying you would make him feel suicidal probably would be considered something that could lead you to feel pressured.
> Who will get protection?
> Is it an issue of favoritism? Who hurts more gets more protection?
It's not an issue of whose hurt is worse. How could that be determined, anyway? The issue is what kinds of posts are or aren't OK.