Posted by Honore on January 18, 2007, at 20:30:32
In reply to Just never mind any of this, it doesn't matter, posted by Happyflower on January 18, 2007, at 20:06:48
I hope you don't give up Happyflower.
Maybe your T told you to take care of yourself and not go places where you get hurt. That's one way to handle situations, and if Babble is hurting you, I wouldn't want that to continue.
But sometimes, when I feel hurt and upset about things here, and say that I'm not coming back-- which happens-- my T thinks I can stay connected and handle the situation, and find ways to protect myself, within this place. Even if something happens that hurts or jars me-- or I feel out of step of sympathy, or disrespected, or whatever it is.
Sometimes, I've learned that I can survive and be okay even if I feel those things-- I can contain the feelings, and move on-- and let them recede. It's amazing sometimes, how over time, things that seem overwhelming and somehow unacceptable are dwarfed and become insubstantial and hard even to reimagine fully.
The pressure you feel might stem from someone else-- but it also is internal pressure-- and that part could shift-- and if you stick around, or come back, you might realize that it's safer here than you think.
You make a great contribution, and your leaving would be a loss. And this place might have good things to offer you.
I hope you can work through the feelings and come back, or --even better, from my perspective--stay.